3.11.2015

Homosexuality is not a Verb

Can I clarify something? Because for all the discussion on this topic, my Christian friends have not yet adopted this distinction in their vocabulary and it’s sending some really bad messages. When evangelical Christians use the word “homosexuality”, they are almost always referring to sexual behavior between two people of the same gender. When EVERYBODY else in our culture uses the word, it refers to attraction and not behavior. Homosexuality refers to a person’s attraction to the same gender and NOT to the behavior associated with that attraction.

Hate to say it folks, but the church got this one wrong and the culture is right here. Whatever you believe about homosexual behavior, homosexuality is a word that refers to attraction and not behavior. It’s not something you do. It’s not something you can “commit”. It’s an adjective; not a verb. A homosexual is someone who is attracted to the same gender. And yes, a person can be gay without ever being sexually active. This isn’t rocket science, people.

Terminology matters! Why? Because when we talk about homosexuality as a sin people commit, we are telling everybody that has ever felt attracted to the same sex that the attraction they feel makes them uniquely sinful (more so than others) and the only hope for them is to change their orientation. This is a dangerous heresy. So let me say this plainly as a bible-believing Christian: Homosexuality is NOT a sin. In other words, your orientation does not set you apart from God. Your behavior does.


If you believe (as I do) that having sex with the same gender is a sin according to the bible, then hunky dory. Believe it. But don’t let “homosexuality” become a catch all for behavior and orientation. Because many gay men and women are being told that their sexual orientation which is inextricably wired into them (by nurture AND biology), and which most will never be able to significantly alter outside of a miracle makes them dirty, untouchable, and irredeemably separated from God. That’s wrong. That’s unbiblical.

3.04.2015

Addis like a Vagabond

Outside the city of Injibara, a town in the crisp mountain air of northern Ethiopia, Mark and Debbie Maclachlan live in a little cultivated garden of Eden surround by thousand-foot granite pillars protruding the green countryside. In their agriculture project, dozens of species of plums, pears, apples, and plants I can’t pronounce are flourishing in the mountain climate. The plums and pears have gone to market and exploded in popularity, created an insatiable demand. It’s part of their vision to create livelihoods in their community while representing Jesus to their neighbors, most of whom are nominal Coptics.




I spent a couple days with them, refreshed after 2 days alone in a hotel room in bustling Addis Ababa and then a full day on the bus. My pastor flew out from the States to join us and as we walked together along the dirt road he helped me process some of the frustration and exhaustion I had been feeling. Truthfully he was a life-saver. That night, I shared a devotion with the Injibara team (2 couples plus the team from our church) about experiencing God’s presence and was pretty vulnerable about the things I was wrestling with what God had been teaching me. It was cathartic to share and encouraging to them.

I wish I could have stayed in Injibara, but I was expected to teach on Tuesday, so on Monday, I woke up at 4:30. Mark and Debbie took me to the big patch of dirt where local buses (all looking as though they’d been through the wars) were about to depart. They told me to play the “white card” and I would be fine. They said goodbye and drove off. A little stunned, I wandered into the compound looking lost. “Addis?” I inquired helplessly to the throng of Amharic speakers. “Addis Ababa?”

“No!” replied the an official looking man. “Addis for tomorrow okay. Today, no. Tickets no.” I’ve learned not to walk away immediately when someone says “no” in Ethiopia, so I shuffled my feet and looked helplessly at the man while he gathered the other passenger’s tickets. After a long time, he shouted some things to the driver and some people standing nearby, grabbed my bag, looked at me, and said “okay.” I paid the man and got on board, relieved. I had played the “white card”.

The bus creaked and veered slowly across mountain plains and through a winding gorge as deep as the Grand Canyon. The man on my left was drunk or hung-over. The one on the right held a small baby. The old woman behind me lay there moaning as though she were sick, one breast dangling haphazardly out of her shawl. I folded my long legs into the tiny seat and tried to entertain myself for the next ten hours. During lunch, two Israeli para-gliders approached me, eager to talk with another English-speaker. At long last we reached Addis, butt-sore but alive. I was dropped on a side street and immediately mobbed by taxi drivers.

A phone call to my Dawit confirmed my fear: lodging at NOT been arranged for that night. Homeless in Africa. Great. I had one more trick up my sleeve. I told the driver to take me to the SIM guesthouse (the mission Mark and Debbie served in). Pulling into the deserted compound, I was told the office was closed for Adwa (or “Expel the Italians Day”). But the guy on duty managed to find me a room just for the night. It was a simple, clean, quiet little room on the second floor. I collapsed onto the bed exhausted and relieved. I was running on fumes, burned out from all the travel and bustle and ambiguity and then a horrible thought struck me: I have to teach tomorrow. And I have no idea who, where, or how many.

I imagined myself standing behind a podium in front of dozens of sharp-faced Ethiopians and trying to conjure up something wise and insightful to say about discipleship. My mind went blank. I panicked. I have nothing to say! I don’t want to teach! I just want to go home and watch movies and drink a cold beer and eat comfort food. The whole weight of the trip hit me in that moment. I wondered, is this burnout? Or am I just tired? There was nothing to do, though I secretly hoped for a catastrophe to strike and cancel the seminar.

I walked into the guesthouse’s dining hall where a middle-aged American was listening eagerly to a Nigerian Muslim-background believer tell his story. Eventually I joined the conversation, intrigued, and listened as the Nigerian spoke passionately about his work discipling other “MBBs” in Nigeria. There was something genuine about him that I really liked and I wanted to know more. So I invited him to join me for dinner. I talked for a long time with my new friend. I learned about his family, his dissertation, and the training center he has for Jesus-followers coming from Islam. I learned that we know some of the same people. I also learned that some of the people he works with are Fulani, those beautiful wraith-like cattle nomads I work with in northern Ghana. We exchanged contact info and discipleship resources before he went home today. I think what attracted me most about him was that everything he’s doing so perfectly embodies the style of intensive, hands-on discipleship that Jesus modeled. I teach all about that model of discipleship throughout Africa, but I know of precious few who are actually DOING that model. It made me want to quit teaching this stuff and just spend the next few years DOING it.

Yesterday morning, I gave a little talk on Exodus 33 to a dozen Nigerians working at an international school. Then my host, Dawit informed me that my “seminar” that afternoon would consist of 7 people who had already done the conference before. I had expected to train the 7 in the context of leading a bigger seminar with them. NOW I had to come up with a new plan, a NEW seminar just for them.... in 2 hours.

Well, I did some fast typing and came up with a plan. So when we arrived at the tiny office where we were meeting, we spent time getting to know each other and having some pretty honest dialogue about what was happening in their lives. Over the next 2 days the teaching became a great round-table discussion. By the end of today the conversation reached a fevered pitch. Okay, I thought. We have buy-in. Tomorrow we’ll finish with some practical work which I hope they’ll be able to apply in their context.

One of the strongest contributors was a pastor named Million. Kid you not. When he was young, his mother didn’t let the other kids call him “Milli” because she wanted her son to get the “full Million.” He grew into a giant hulk of an Ethiopian gangster/street fighter before being introduced to Jesus by a frail old lady at a restaurant. Now he’s a hulk of a pastor (who I STILL wouldn’t want to meet in a dark alley) with a growing passion for discipleship.

Another guy chimed in during our discussion on forgiveness. He was frustrated that the Muslims he works with view the forgiveness of Christians as a sign of weakness and God humiliating the Christians. He wondered if Christians should really forgive them or fight back to earn their respect. He concluded he would have to follow of the cross, even if he was misunderstood or ridiculed.

Tomorrow should be interesting. I’m having my two organizers, Dawit and Mekonnen do the teaching while I sit back and watch. This is my favorite part! We’ll have discussions on “what’s next” and then wrap it up for the week.


Stay tuned for what’s next! Babysitting missionary kids at a volcanic crater lake, preaching on Sunday, getting offered raw meat before my long flight home Monday. Hmmmmm.....

2.28.2015

The Most Ridiculous Bus Ride Ever


 So on Thursday, I said to my friend, “I need to buy a bus ticket for tomorrow.”
“Okay,” my friend replies. I’ll pick you up at 9:45.
By 10:30, we were at a coffee shop sipping macchiatos... In Ethiopia, you find ANY excuse to sip macchiatos... 2 hours later, we’re still sitting there. His “friend”, he insists, is 5 minutes away and he will help us. An hour later, a big Ethiopian contractor guy pulls up in an old Mercedes. My friend opens the door and motions for me to get in the car. I hesitate. “This is my friend,” he says. “He is very generous. Go with him. I’ll see you later.”
“Okay...” I hesitate. “Will I meet you back here or go back to the hotel?” Vague affirmations that we’ll figure it out follow until I drive away with the big certain I have no idea what’s going on.
My new friend drives me all over town shouting, “Sky bus ticket office?!” to random strangers until we find ourselves (after several false starts) in a poorly-marked office on the 3rd floor of a mall. And all the tickets for tomorrow are sold out.
As we are leaving defeated, a young man wanders up muttering something about Bahar Dar and ends up selling me his ticket, the last seat on the bus. “The miracle ticket,” my new contractor friend calls it.
On the way back the way back to my hotel, we have to stop for an hour to get lunch. Then he “drops by” the market to pick up some materials (which takes over an hour due to unknown people running around shouting unknown things in an unknown language and generally not telling me what’s going on. At last after 8 hours, I’m back at the hotel having accomplished my one thing for the day (well half of one thing.... I was told I would have to buy the return ticket in Bahar Dar, but don’t worry. They are 95% sure there will be plenty of space on the bus coming home.)

So this morning at 5AM, I sat down in the back row of the bus feeling like a very squished foreigner indeed. 2 hours into our 9-hour trip, we started careening down steep switchbacks into a 1km deep gorge with breathtaking and terrifying views. The two giggly muslim high school girls on my left took turns puking in a bag. Finally I fell asleep and when I woke up one of the girls was sleeping soundly on my shoulder, her arm draped casually across my knee. Only in Ethiopia I thought.

After two some great Ethiopian elevator music and two home-grown Ethiopian films, we arrived at our destination sweltering because the guy on my right insisted that the cool breeze was like evil spirits blowing across his body and would surely make him sick.

The payoff came though in the form of macchiatos overlooking lake Tana under a veranda next to a giant sycamore bowing its ancient limbs near the water. The coffee in that region (Zegie) is some of the best I’ve had and is shade-grown on the lakeshore by monks and family farmers but has yet to make its debut in America (to the best of my knowledge). I first had it 2 years ago on a small island in the lake where a family served us from their private crop grown under the shade of an 800-year-old monastery. “Sacred coffee” I called it. I was enchanted. Now I’m dreaming of introducing it to the American market. Holy Zegie macchiatos for all!

Oh... did I mention, that I went to the ticket office here and all the buses for Monday are FULL???? Wuh wuuuuuhh....... Squishy minibus anybody?


1.28.2015

The Inside Scoop on the Last 6 Months (part 1)

There are a million things circulating through my brain; great blog topics, stories to make you cringe, developments from left field... but I feel I owe you (and myself) a not-too-profound explanation as to where I’ve been the last 6 months.

After I got back from Zambia, several things happened at once. Levi started waking up at 6:30, then 6, then 5:30. Today he was cheerful and ready to play at 4:30. My ADD mind has 1-2 hours in the morning in which I’m groggy enough to focus on one thing at a time. Once upon a time, it was reading scripture, journaling, prayer, and blogging. Now it’s diaper changes, coffee, fruity pebbles, “YOU'REGOINGTOMISSYOURBUS”, and “no buddy, mac ‘n cheese is for lunch not breakfast”.

Also, I started a coffee-roasting business. I bought a grill, built an aluminum drum, repurposed a cordless drill. Then I tried, and failed, and tried, and failed... and failed some more until at last... I got coffee nirvana roast after roast. I tweaked, I upgraded, I used all 5 senses. And now I’m pumping out fresh beans to my online social network all over the country. It’s art to me and I love it. But I’m doing everything and my growth has been limited by other commitments (like my “real” job). Still, I’ve had a couple churches interested (if you have a church, restaurant, or office that may be interested in becoming a wholesale customer, please hit me up at lovenomadscoffee@gmail.com and I’ll send you a free sampler pack with all the info). In an ironic and beautiful twist of fate, my uber-barista neighbor who serves coffee at a nearby vape shop challenged me to develop a good espresso blend, which I did in all manner of geekyness. He liked the final product so well, he plans to serve it exclusive at the vape shop starting next month! Honestly, I love that Love Nomads will have its public debut there. The other awesome thing is that the profits from the coffee are ALL going to projects in Africa. It’s designed to be an income engine for our various projects. So over Christmas, it helped buy a motorcycle for Jonah Manyan in Northern Ghana. Now we are funneling it toward my next round of seminars in Ethiopia.

I went to the UK in October after a UK/Ghana trip got canned due to Ebola concerns. So... I hopped over to Birmingham on a buddy pass and stayed for a week with my friend Harvey, a Malawian professor and recently published missiologist. That week, we were deep in conversation about the African church in Europe, cross-cultural ministry, and discipleship. We visited his old church in Nottingham (nice town, no sheriff) and saw a really beautiful example of a small pan-African church worshipping and seeking God for their place as mulit-cultural community in the heart of the UK. I hit it off with the pastor and felt let to pursue a relationship with them. So Harvey and I plan to return there in June to conduct a seminar (my idea: multicultural disciple-making). Then we’ll head back to Birmingham for Harvey’s think-tank conference on reverse mission that Saturday. After THAT, we’ll go together to Zambia for another 10 more days of discipleship training. More on that to come...


On Debra’s 31st birthday, she pulled and all-nighter and launched an Etsy shop selling hand-painted shirts, onesies, tea towels and the like. She calls her shop “Plucky Mustard”. I know. Adorable. She has a keen eye for design and immediately got noticed by a bunch of heavy-hitters in that community, leading to a slew of sales over Christmas. Now she’s wading through over 100 orders for her Valentine’s shirts. Needless to say, she wasn’t expecting her rise to fame and we got nailed by the 2x4 of reality: we are really... REALLY busy! At this moment, I’m working from home and juggling kids, Juniper is waking up from her nap, and I need to get her some lunch. SO, Let’s call this part one of a 2-part series. Be back soon!
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